Episode 065 | Coffee, Cigarettes and Cash

May 16th, 2017

Can you be a gay Christian, how do you apologize to an ex and how do you know if your guilt is from God or the enemy? Pastor Matt Brown shares his thoughts on how to grow in your faith, not become a slave to money and how exactly to go about enjoying God.

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In this episode, Pastor Matt starts out by continuing to unpack the complicated nature of sexuality in the church and discusses whether or not using the term “gay Christian” is biblically correct or not. As the group covers this topic and the church’s approach to a broad range substances including nicotine and caffeine, he talks through the importance of allowing anyone and everyone to see and experience God before being expected to know or understand Christian rules and teachings.

As the episode continues, Pastor Matt answers some practical questions about marriage, including whether couples should aim to serve together or in places that suit their individual gifting and how to apologize to an ex without dishonoring your spouse or reopening a toxic relationship.

As the conversation shifts to unpacking the first sermon in the Beyond Happy series, Pastor Matt talks through some of the warnings from the bible that he used in his message including the temptation to pursue money instead of God. He then unpacks verses about what guilt really is, what the “good work” God has begun in us is and how to actually enjoy God.


Pastor Matt’s recommended reading for growing in your relationship with God: Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard

The Gift of Being Yourself by David Benner

Books of the Bible: James Philippians

The Sandals Church REAL Study Method

  • Read: Read the passage slowly and carefully.
  • Extract: What is this passage saying? What is the universal principle being communicated?
  • Apply: What does this mean for you? What needs to happen in your life based on what you read?
  • Let It Out: Tell someone what you learned and experienced.

This Week’s Personal Reflection Guide by Pastor Dan Crowley

Find a place where you can be alone with God. Talk to God about your happiness. Ask him some questions like, “God, please reveal to me three desires that could make me happy.” Are these desires aimed at an external, internal or eternal happiness?” Next, offer them to God and ask if there are any eternal desires that he would like to give you. End your prayer by thanking God for wanting to give you things that will last.

Pastor Matt’s sermon about finding real happiness

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