Dex is the Creative Director of Sandals Church. As part of his many responsibilities, he works directly with graphic designers, videographers and worship leaders to create experiences that draw people closer to God. Dex is married to Noemi, and together they have two fun kids, Zoe and Zeke.
In the midst of fame, expectation, and facade, I spent thirty-five years of my life trying to discover myself.
I was born in Inglewood, CA, my dad is a pastor and I am biracial. Any one of those things is enough to send anyone spiraling out of control when it comes to self.
At a young age, I gave my life to Christ, came out to California, met some friends and decided to start a band. Once our name got out and our popularity increased,
Dex was part of All Together Separate, a popular Christian band in the 1990's.
I embraced the fame, and as my hair grew longer and longer, so did the tale that I was telling myself --- that though it was true I was a voice of a new generation, I was petrified that people would find out who I really was.
So I spent about a decade lying to the world.
I came up with a story to hide who I truly was and what my motives were because I did not know who I was. I found myself in an identity crisis.
While everyone else in the world was saying that I was a charismatic lead singer, or that I was a great inspiration to their kids, or Christian leaders were commending me for what I was doing as a songwriter, and what we were doing as a band, I would return every night to my bus, get in my bunk, and I would tell myself,
“You’re a liar, you’re a fraud. You’re lost. You’re a disappointment. You’re a sham, you are a complete hoax.”
And it was during that time that I had to figure out who I was.
Now I find myself under the amazing vision of Sandals Church that challenges me to be real with myself, to be real with God and to be real with others. Here is what I believe God says about me:
Dex leads our worship team at our Saturday evening services as well as Sunday mornings.
I was once an enemy of God, but now I am a friend of God. I was once far from God, but He has brought me in, purely based on his amazing grace.
Once I realized that it was ok to be real with myself, I felt like God showed me that who I thought I was wasn’t actually who God created me to be.
Dex is the Creative Director at Sandals Church. He once rocked the stages of the nation as a performer, and has since sought out the vision of Sandals Church to live an authentic life and touch the lives of others through his creativity and leadership.